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Have you recharged your batteries lately?

We got off the boat in the national park of Canada on Maligne Lake and stepped onto spirit island on the last full day of our vacation (picture above). It’s been a long time since I was back around Jasper, AB. The first for Blake and the first in the mountains for my daughter Tess.

 

One third of Americans have not taken a holiday in two years! We all have been locked in through Covid and many people have told me “they feel limited by where they can go with the amount of delays and cancellations (up to 20% of flights are delayed on average 48 minutes in 2022).

 

We’ve taken two driving holidays in the last two months, one in the north fork of NY (2.5 hours away) and the latter on the back end of a flight home to see Mom, and in the mountains (Banff and Jasper 4-5 hours drive).

 

I have also had a good stretch not taking a vacation. The thinking being, if you can’t go anywhere fun, it’s not worth taking. I am someone who likes to work, and likes to contribute, but I can tell you, turning all the tech off, and turning your out of office on is the only way to truly recharge.

 

Many of us think, the work or our team mates will miss us while we are gone, but most people love when the boss is away (especially if you are an idea fountain like me) and are happy to back up a colleague when they are away with their family.

 

As my old team would say, before you get “crispy”, the beginning of getting burnt out, take yourself off the chess board, and hit your happy place and fill the battery back up.

 

Tess kept dragging me out on the back of the cruise boat, as we went to spirit island and back. She likes to look at the water and feel the wind in her hair. She just may be a chip off the old Canadian Iceberg after all.

 

Defeating Average while not working.

 

Colin

 

Children are listening…are you?

I was listening to my meditation last weekend when my daughter asked, “can we listen to one of mine.”

We started six months ago listening to some children’’s meditations on the Calm app, including Poppy the Troll, Thomas the Train and others. They are four minutes long. The one she loves the most is “Gratitude Scrapbook.”

We listen for a couple minutes and then she will tell me to pause it so she can share what she is grateful for, and then I do the same.

Tess’s are simple:

I am grateful when Daddy plays with me
I am grateful for my friend William
I am grateful for mommy reading me books
I am grateful for ice-cream (aren’t we all)

It’s a reminder of what it’s all for.

Connection, friendship, love, learning and snacks.

Children have a lot to teach us, if we are listening.

Have a great weekend.

Colin

Ukraine Strong

My grandfather on my Dad’s side died when I was 12. My middle name was named for him. My Grandmother and his wife died a number of years later. They grew up in the farming community in the province of Manitoba, Canada. The breadbasket of Canada.

I remember getting my first tool set just a couple years before he passed. He had an old shed he worked out of just like my dad would for most of his life.

He fixed things that were broken. He repaired trucks, cars and items in and out of the house. He lived a simple life. He was grateful for what he had and to live in a country where you could carve your own path based on hard work.

My grandfather is Ukrainian. My Dad is Ukrainian

Two of the biggest communities of Ukrainians are in Manitoba and Edmonton, Alberta where I grew up.

In 1997 and one of the biggest floods since 1950 in Winnipeg, my dad traveled to help his brother to build a fortress of sandbags around and save his house. The community worked together to defend their lively hood.

Ukrainians are gritty, prideful and don’t give up.

Defending Democracy and Defeating Autocracy.

Colin

This is a story that is just beginning 

50 percent of people are re-examining there lives 

 

40 percent of people are experiencing some sort of mental health impact from the Pandemic 

 

Employees satisfied with their work life balance attend 25% few meetings 

 

We are on a long journey that is just beginning. 

 

How can we all help one another?

 

Listen

  • Be curious a little bit longer when people are sharing with you 

 

Learn

  • Be willing to relearn how to live in this environment 
  • Ask more questions 
  • Be more selfish with your well-being 

 

Live 

  • Focus on what is best for you and your family 
  • Find the best way to recover 
  • Answer: what is something that would bring me joy today?

 

Be well

Which Wolf Are You Feeding?

There is an old parable that uncovers how I have felt over the last couple years, and maybe you too. 

The conversation is between a grandfather and his grandson and does like this:

“I have a fight going on in me,” the old man said. “It’s taking place between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

The grandfather looked at the grandson and went on. “The other embodies positive emotions. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. Both wolves are fighting to the death. The same fight is going on inside you and every other person, too.”

The grandson took a moment to reflect on this. At last, he looked up at his grandfather and asked, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee gave a simple reply. “The one you feed.”

This parable serves as a powerful reminder of the fight that every human being must face. Regardless of the type of person you are or what kind of life you lead, you will find yourself battling two conflicting emotions at some point in your life. 

They can be between anger, angst, frustration or calm, peace, passion and many other emotions.

I find I am coming in contact with both wolves.

It’s important to be conscious of which wolf you are feeding.

Defeating Average.

 

Colin

Honey Makes Me Wiggle

I was making a lunch snack for my daughter this morning and I asked her the typical question.

Would you like almond butter and honey or almond butter and jam?

She shook her head and came over and pointed at the honey.

Almond butter and honey I said. 

She shook her head no, “just honey.”

Why, I said?

“I don’t like Almond Butter.”

But you have always liked Almond Butter I said.

“I just want honey. Honey makes me wiggle.”

Fair enough!

As I am learning, things change often with kids. What was true one week is not true the next. What worked yesterday, may not work tomorrow.

Accepting that as true with my daughter makes life easier. 

I am focused on staying a little curious a little longer and treating each day with a beginner’s mind.

 

Defeating Average.

 

Colin

Chosen Family

We were at a NYC afternoon get together for friends that support the arts and formed a non profit during the pandemic. It was my wife’s group and I was tagging along to keep our 3 year old Tess amused. 

It was a beautiful brownstone with a big wall of books all the way along one side and brick on the other. 

My goal was to keep Tess from disturbing the adults and make sure my wife could have a good time. I’m on the introverted side by nature and pull myself across to the extrovert side for work and get-togethers. It takes (and uses up my energy) to build small talk with groups of people. 

After a number of puzzle games and Tess and I grazing on snacks, I picked her up and brought her into some conversations. She’s a natural connector!

I found myself getting re-acquainted with small talk and finding out how people spend their work weeks and what brought them together as a group. Good people, wanting to give back to a community of people they love.

Once the small gathering hit critical mass the host said a few small words. What stood out most was her use of the words “chosen family.”

Many people left NYC during the heart of the pandemic, while others banded together to shine a bright light for dim prospects on one of the most important industries in the city.

  • Some friends left so you needed to find new ones
  • You had to make a real effort to travel outside the city to see people and you could not choose everyone
  • Zooms with friends and family was the new normal, you had to prioritize people
  • You had a fraction of the amount of disposable time and heart to give to others, you had to choose wisely

The pandemic has changed many things, including who you choose.

On this US Thanksgiving (for those who observe) recognize when the chips were down, who you chose and chose you.

Have a wonderful holiday.

Colin

 

 

The Right Trail

I spent the last week hiking 100 miles through Death Valley with my running Mentor Ray Zahab and 4 other hikers and a support guide. 

 

“Keeping on the same trail with easy terrain can seem like the right way, but you need to have the courage to follow your way points, what you know is true and take on tougher terrain to prioritize safety, hydration and success. Committing to the wrong path can be deadly.”

 

Ray crossed the Canadian Arctic three times, the landmass of Antarctica and ran 4,500 miles across the Sahara Desert in 100 days in 2009, which was turned into a film “Running the Sahara” narrated by Matt Damon. In 2011, 2014 and 2018 he crossed Death Valley North to South and East to West at the hottest time of the year, in July. Death Valley is the lowest altitude on earth, down to 250 feet below sea level and has been measured as the hottest place on earth. Earlier this year 134 F!

 

Ray is the only person I would go through Death Valley with. We had temperatures of 80 F to 97 F.

 

The first four days were challenging terrain and hot. Day 5 and 6 had the most brutal terrain I have ever encountered. Six terrain changes in one day (flat sand, deep sand, hard crystallized salt, salt rivers, big crusty salt planks and one foot high sharp fan like structures.

 

The big salt structures you need to carefully step over, can go on for miles. We were moving at less than a mile per hour in some areas. 

 

As we got into the centre of the field of high salt structures, Ray really laid down an education on Death Valley.

 

“This is why people die in heat and specifically in Death Valley. Three people died this past July. A couple just a half mile from the road. If you don’t have enough hydration and electrolytes (salt balance for the body) and you get into the centre of where we are right now, you are at high risk. It’s easy to get confused, be worn down, fall down and injure yourself and make mistakes. It’s at least 3 miles or 3 hours in any direction from where we are right now to exit the park. Without the right hydration, direction, will power and capability, you are dead.”

 

So after that pep talk, we all took another sip of water from our filled up blatters, watched our steps and moved as a unit.

 

Are you on the right trail? How do you know?

Are you prepared for brutal terrain physically or mentally ahead?

 

If water, salts, mindset and capabilities are the recipe for hiking success, do you know the recipe for your own success? 

 

Be curious. Beginner’s mind.

 

Defeating Average.

 

Colin

I visualized being at the top for three years 

I visualized being at the top of Everest for three years until I was.”

  • Ricky Singh (Indian / American Entrepreneur)

We sat around the dinner table talking about our first day on the expedition and someone ask Ricky “we heard you climbed Everest in 2019, tell us about the experience.”

He said “I climbed for 6 weeks every spring in Nepal with the team I assembled over three years. We practiced our skills and build trust constantly. When back in the US I spent a little time each night visualizing success. I saw myself at the top. I saw through any obstacles. Skills will only get you so far in Everest. You need belief in yourself, confidence you can handle anything that comes your way.”

As we hiked Death Valley this week he got me thinking about my values.

Trust, learning, exploration.

Trust and learning have always been my top two. For me part of exploration is courage.

Ricky exemplifies courage and learning.

To be different, think differently, challenge boundaries. He was one of the most curious people about life I have ever met.

Ricky had the courage to believe he could make the highest point on earth.  He planned for it meticulously. Three of four people on his expedition made it to the top. All made it off safely.  Ricky lost two fingers to frostbite on the way down.  A simple mistake taking a glove off at the wrong time. Other mistakes could have been much more consequential.

Part of what I love about these adventures, are who you meet and what you learn about them and about yourself.

What do you want?

How can you meticulously plan to make it so? Visualize its completion.

How can you be a little more curious learning from others.

Defeating Average.

Colin

Welcome Unanticipated Problems

“Anticipate and welcome the unanticipated problems and permit an exercise into transcendence vs. tragedy. Take out the negative energy and turn it into action.”

 

I have been listening to Ken Burns interviews as he prepares to launch his PBS 4 part series on Muhammad Ali!  I can’t wait.

 

From a legendary documentary filmmaker, words of wisdom on how he prepares for films for life.

 

Defeating Average.

 

Colin