Ask yourself powerful questions and watch ESPN 30 for 30 Sonic Break
How do you want to experience yourself?
Let that one marinate over you for a second.
That is what psychologist Dr. Gervais asked Felix Baumgartner to answer for himself through the final few months of the 5-year journey in jumping from a balloon from the edge of space.
Remember that red bull guy that broke the sound barrier hurtling through space faster than a speeding bullet? That guy.
He was having doubts that he could do this, that he could survive. Obviously. He needed to change the relationship between how he was experiencing himself.
Simmer on the question. Answer if for yourself. Watch the 30 min episode….and redefine your personal narrative.
Keeping each person in a positive space during the conversation is key. Empathy for the challenges being faced keeps us in the problem-solving part of the brain vs fight or flight.This is a great article a friend shared on how to prep for these types of conversations.
What is your purpose for having the conversation? What do you hope to accomplish? What would be an ideal outcome? Watch for hidden purposes. You may think you have honorable goals, like educating an employee or increasing connection with your teen, only to notice that your language is excessively critical or condescending. You think you want to support, but you end up punishing. Some purposes are more useful than others. Work on yourself so that you enter the conversation with a supportive purpose.
I didn’t realize that I had anymore to give until I was running on empty.
Three-quarters of the way through a week-long 160 Mile/250 Km adventure race in Iceland, I was on my last leg. Literally. Battered by freezing winds and pouring rain, I was running a marathon a day over jagged volcanic rocks, which caused me to develop a high ankle sprain. I was at the end of my rope.
I had attempted two races previously, only finishing one. Somewhere deep within myself I knew I had the capacity to finish another one, but my foot (now swollen to twice its normal size) was telling me different.
When I awoke for the final day facing 45 miles and 70km up ahead, I could barely put weight on my right foot. Unsure if I could run, my tent-mates and teammates Ash and Jesse encouraged me to get out there and just put one foot in front of the other for as long as possible: To get into the arena and do the best I could.
Every step was painful. But each step edged me more into my untapped potential. I managed to run up hills, across glaciers and black sand beaches, finding new gears every couple of hours. Similarly, I had big depressive mental falls from those runner highs and had to rebuild my confidence to make it further. I stopped often and asked myself if I could go just one step further.
Left, right, left, right.
I had developed a mantra prior to the race, “Strong, Relaxed and Grateful.” It helped me stay centered, as I pushed my mind and body towards its maximum physical potential: uncharted territory. Through each painful step, I must have said that mantra 10,000 times.
After 17 hours on course, I finished in the dark at 1 AM.
That day was pure Grit. I had never strained myself so deep with every ounce of my being. That day I learned what grit truly tasted, felt and moved like. Moving through grit brought me towards my untapped potential and in turn I was able to discover my true potential.
So, What got me there?
Repetition and persistence through numerous obstacles. Dealing with maximum anxiety and being accountable for myself, my fellow competitors and tent-mates. The camaraderie on a shared goal and experience with others can push you to great heights.
After suffering, I found that my stretch goal is now my current capacity. Every day I continue to discover new ways to find more untapped potential within myself.
To finding your true capacity,
Have you been locked in? Unable to find your mojo? This is a story that will help you find your way back.
As a young girl, Victoria Arlen truly had the world ahead of her. But at the age of 11, she began to suffer from an illness that baffled her doctors and kept Victoria locked in her own body.
Listen to the 19 min podcast to hear behind the story or watch the 30 for 30 Short.
Find your corner in the next race you run.
As a Canadian, I grew up watching Liberals, Conservatives, and Democrats in our Political system. Now that I am in the US, you can’t help to be glued to the current political landscape.
In desert races, we aim for 25 lbs or less of weight. It’s the right balance of enough calories and tools to finish the race.
Too much – you are overloaded and wear down.
Too little – not enough energy/fuel to make the finish.
How much mental and physical weight are you carrying in your backpack?
Newborns have their own schedule and often don’t align with yours. We need to be flexible and patient.
Defining roles on what each of you do is key. We are still working on it and have developed some sense of division of tasks.
There is nothing that brings more joy than the smile of your child and watching them sleep. I’ve given up a number of things to spend more time doing both.
When you get to wake up with your child and put them to sleep every night the challenges of the day seem lighter.
I find myself thinking longer term, building the foundation for Tess’s life. 10-year goals help bring perspective to priorities today.
I’ll share more lessons as they come, I know we have a lot to learn!
What I have learned over time is that if you put text on a screen or slide and then speak to people, they have a hard time retaining what you are saying. Think about it the next time it happens to you.
It’s difficult to read and listen at the same time!
A friend passed on a great video that shows you how to draw the basics of characters/cartoons on a whiteboard.
Images are a powerful way to communicate your message.
Have some fun learning to draw!