You might have worked twice as hard to hit the same quota AND it was an opportunity to put your mental health first.
“It’s about being a warrior. It doesn’t matter about the cause necessarily. This is your path and you will pursue it with excellence. You face your fear because the goal demands it. That is the warrior spirit. I think Free Soloing is very similar. You give 100% because your life depends on it.”
– Alex Honnold, World-Class Rock Climber
I was listening to an awesome podcast episode with Dr. Michael Gervais interviewing Jimmy Chin, famed photographer, skier, alpine adventurer, and filmmaker. Highly recommend!
Jimmy Chin filmed Alex Honnold in “Free Solo” doing the most difficult rock climb (without ropes) ever attempted in 2017.
He talked about Alex’s mindset preparing. How he visualized. He visualized both his successful manoeuvers and sequences needed on the rockface (like a Chessmaster) AND what will happen if he made mistakes.
As Jimmy Chin said, “mistakes in climbing happens when people are tired and way more often on the decent in benign situations.”
Visualizing both success, and mistakes and accepting each outcome will get you to the finish line.
Good thoughts to remember as you chart your big hairy audacious goal in 2021.
“To love someone is to learn the song in their heart and sing it to them when they have forgot” – Arne Garborg (Norwegian Writer)
I heard a great quote recently that I think beautifully summarizes how we should take care of our loved ones in challenging times.
We all get down. It’s easy in these time periods.
To finding the song for the person most important to you.
In Joseph’s Campbell the Hero’s Journey, one key stage of human experience is experiencing the “Abyss.”
Some of us put ourselves through the trials to slay the dragon ahead of it actually happening to be prepared, while others are thrust into it unknowingly.
Whichever journey you are on, eventually you will be tested.
Your character will be revealed in this struggle.
I would argue all of us are being tested right now in Covid times.
When faced with challenges or high-pressure situations, I often ask myself, what is the learning opportunity?
In these moments the layers of an onion are peeled back and character is revealed.
Lean into these anxious times.
You can come out on the other side a changed individual.
Its been a challenging year. So many people are struggling. I have felt anxious, angry, and frustrated.
I saw a great talk recently where a courageous woman recovering from cancer said “sometimes being courageous means asking for help and taking on less. Letting others take center stage and covering for you, helps others grow and helps you recover.”
We all need a break these days.
Be gentle with yourself.
Offer to cover for others when you see they need help.
Ask for help when you need a rest and live to fight on another day.
Control what you can control
I’m tripling down on this theme in anxious times. It’s something I struggle with daily!
There is so much angst, anxiety, and frustration in our world and news cycle. It can get overwhelming.
My goal is to be in bed by 930pm each night for a good night of sleep. I was doom scrolling till 11 pm the other night and finally realized my thirst for information was counterproductive!
When I do it right what has been helpful?
- Limit Twitter consumption to 15 minutes
- Do it midday or end of the workday and cut it off
- Put my iPhone away for Tess bedtime and bath time
- Watch a documentary or series in the evening and go to bed
Technology is wonderful and related to social consumption it’s working against us. You need to be focused and disciplined on how to overcome.
Defeating Average in controlling what you can control.
Are you anxious?? I am. Lots of uncertainty right now.
It’s easy to get caught up doom scrolling and sidetracked on things you can’t control.
What can we do?
Accept, Adjust and Adapt
Accept what is.
Naming your emotions, writing down what you need to accept to get through this tough time period will help get it out of your brain.
The same pre covid pre-political angst methods may no longer work. Change your routines and habits.
Journaling I want doing prior to this, now I do every day.
The new virtual world requires different skills. Have you modified your approach?
My two examples.
I get outside three times a day no matter what and measure myself to it with a yes or no in my journal.
I added in 5-15 minutes of work to family time clearing mediation to reboot for the evening. That could also be a walk or a stretch, anything to clear the mind.
Defeating Average in the new virtual decade.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
– Joseph Campbell
Questions that help me find this essence.
What would you do if you didn’t compare yourself to anyone else?
What advice would your 20 years in the future self give you about your choices this year?
What brings me energy? What brings me life?
I hope these help you as you navigate your GPS to the life that is waiting for you.