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The most underrated and simple phrase you are not using enough

Thank You Saying thank you will directly impact your success and enrollment of people around you. Some people do work for money, most do it for pride, purpose and connecting with others. People want to feel engaged and appreciated for the work they do and contributing to something bigger than themselves. When you say “thank you”, give one or two examples in how they contributed to your success. A project or deal is not done until you thank everyone who made major contributions. Add more thank you’s into your upcoming weeks and you will see the difference a few minutes of your time makes. Thank You for being a reader and giving me the inspiration to continue to write. Have a great Thanksgiving long weekend for those in the US. Colin

My Interview on Netflix – Cheating Death

I had an interview earlier this year for a show called “A User’s Guide For Cheating Death” and episode 6 focused on mindfulness, well-being and how people cope with life in a stressful world.    My example is how I used mindfulness to cope with anxiety in Ultra races and how that can translate back into life. My part is 30 minutes in and I encourage you to watch the whole episode as Timothy Caufield travels all over the world to find experts who have the answer.   Enjoy.   Colin  

I was in a funk and needed a reboot

Our daughter has not been sleeping well the last week, so neither have we!  Sleep is my ONE thing. If I get a good night sleep, I can conquer the mountain. After getting through the morning, getting some work done, and the family fed, I had 3 hours to myself as the girls were visiting friends. I knew 3 hours was a good amount of time to take on the tasks I had outlined…cleaning the closets, a couple blogs, and a workout. So what did I do?  I slowed down. I realized I had pushed right past my regular morning meditation with the hairiness in the morning, so I started there.  After the 20 min meditation, I used my “Calm” app and did an additional 20 min body scan to slow the breath down and gain some “creative intelligence.” I rose refreshed, recharged and with 100% more vigor to go after my tasks.  Even the inspiration to write this blog. 🙂 Sometimes we need to SLOW down to ACCELERATE forward. Colin

How do you make your own Sonic Break?

Ask yourself powerful questions and watch ESPN 30 for 30 Sonic Break How do you want to experience yourself? Let that one marinate over you for a second. That is what psychologist Dr. Gervais asked Felix Baumgartner to answer for himself through the final few months of the 5-year journey in jumping from a balloon from the edge of space. Remember that red bull guy that broke the sound barrier hurtling through space faster than a speeding bullet?  That guy. He was having doubts that he could do this, that he could survive.  Obviously. He needed to change the relationship between how he was experiencing himself. Simmer on the question.  Answer if for yourself. Watch the 30 min episode….and redefine your personal narrative. Colin  

7 Ways to prepare for a tough conversation

Having tough conversations with a peer or employee are some of the tougher things we do.  Keeping each person in a positive space during the conversation is key. Empathy for the challenges being faced keeps us in the problem-solving part of the brain vs fight or flight.This is a great article a friend shared on how to prep for these types of conversations.   Here is number 1:   What is your purpose for having the conversation? What do you hope to accomplish? What would be an ideal outcome? Watch for hidden purposes. You may think you have honorable goals, like educating an employee or increasing connection with your teen, only to notice that your language is excessively critical or condescending. You think you want to support, but you end up punishing. Some purposes are more useful than others. Work on yourself so that you enter the conversation with a supportive purpose.   Read the rest of the article here. Colin

My Turning Point to High Performance

I didn’t realize that I had anymore to give until I was running on empty. Three-quarters of the way through a week-long 160 Mile/250 Km adventure race in Iceland, I was on my last leg. Literally. Battered by freezing winds and pouring rain, I was running a marathon a day over jagged volcanic rocks,  which caused me to develop a high ankle sprain. I was at the end of my rope. I had attempted two races previously, only finishing one. Somewhere deep within myself I knew I had the capacity to finish another one, but my foot (now swollen to twice its normal size) was telling me different. When I awoke for the final day facing 45 miles and 70km up ahead, I could barely put weight on my right foot. Unsure if I could run, my tent-mates and teammates Ash and Jesse encouraged me to get out there and just put one foot in front of the other for as long as possible: To get into the arena and do the best I could. …

Three Ways Focusing On Mindset Makes You Win

I remember the time specifically when I realized I could be better than I was.  It was grade 9 and I was running in the 800 M Track & Field City Semi-Finals.  I always competed but was never relevant in placing.   I for once took our coaches advice about visualizing the outcome and playing it in my mind the night before. It was on the 3rd turn with 200 M left that I felt I may have some gas left in the tank and could pass other runners.  Let me be clear, I was not up all night thinking about it.  It was 10 min.   Wouldn’t you know it, on race day at the 600 M mark, like a birdie sitting on my shoulder, I had a nudge to run as hard as possible to the finish. I remembered seeing the way to the finish.  The 800 M is often a big lumpy crowd of 10-15 runners.  I was in the last 3rd and I shot myself up into 4th place and passed a …

What you learn in death

As a Canadian, I grew up watching Liberals, Conservatives, and Democrats in our Political system.  Now that I am in the US, you can’t help to be glued to the current political landscape. What is telling is how great leadership crosses party, community and different phases of life.   There is a great opportunity to learn when icons pass and reflect for yourself how you would like to be remembered when you are gone.   Two Statements below from Barrack Obama and George W. Bush.   Obama:   “John McCain and I were members of different generations, came from completely different backgrounds, and competed at the highest level of politics,” Obama, 57, wrote. “But we shared, for all our differences, a fidelity to something higher — the ideals for which generations of Americans and immigrants alike have fought, marched, and sacrificed.   The statement continued: “We saw our political battles, even, as a privilege, something noble, an opportunity to serve as stewards of those high ideals at home, and to advance them around the world. …

Five things I’ve learned in my first 10 weeks as a parent

Patience  Newborns have their own schedule and often don’t align with yours. We need to be flexible and patient. Partnership Defining roles on what each of you do is key. We are still working on it and have developed some sense of division of tasks.  Joy There is nothing that brings more joy than the smile of your child and watching them sleep. I’ve given up a number of things to spend more time doing both.  Perspective  When you get to wake up with your child and put them to sleep every night the challenges of the day seem lighter.  Legacy I find myself thinking longer term, building the foundation for Tess’s life. 10-year goals help bring perspective to priorities today.  I’ll share more lessons as they come, I know we have a lot to learn! Colin